I have read many biographies, autobiographies, self-help books and stories of success. Perhaps I did not read them well enough or maybe I did not read the right ones, but something that is often not spoken about is the loneliness of being in alignment with your path.

But it’s all there. We see it. From documentaries about Usain Bolt’s athleticism, Beyonce’s genius and tenacity, Elton John’s superstardom and Steve Jobs’ vision. It becomes very apparent when you look for it.

When seeking out your path of alignment, it is a very lonely journey. As Asake put it “it’s lonely at the top”. And not only at the proverbial ‘top’. It’s lonely in the journey to your ‘top’ – a place of alignment, fulfilment and self-actualisation.

More often than not, this is because it is a fight between you and yourself – your willpower, your drive, your vision. And nobody can win that fight for you. It is you alone in the ring fighting for your life – yes, you can have a team to support you, strategise with you, encourage you, heal you and help you where necessary. But you have to accept that it is your journey.

Movement does not happen – cannot happen – unless you decide to step on the court, into the ring or make the first step on this journey.

And that can be an isolating thing to feel.

That is why, I believe, you have to tap into your higher power. For me it is God. Because the journey gets too dark and dreary to navigate by myself. I need guidance and reassurance that it is not all on me. I have someone helping me along the way in moments where it hurts most.

Without my guiding compass, this journey would have proven unbearably heavy, lonely and this mountain, impossible to surmount.